We’ve all seen the show with ranting, shrieking, growling brides. Most women would never dream that transformation could happen to them. If you want to NOT be a Bridezilla, these steps will help.
First, don’t make decisions when you are tired. For most people, being tired sets their emotions on edge. A tired bride-to-be can make for an overly emotional bride-to-be. Get your beauty sleep, and don’t skip meals even if you are trying to lose a few pounds like most brides. Don’t get dehydrated. Dehydration can lead to mood swings, too.
Do spend time with your fiance’ while planning your wedding. He’s your man, your rock to lean on, your friend. Steal moments away from the planning and don’t forget what this wedding is all about: the two of you, and not just you.
Yes, the bride is the focus, but remember you have a groom too!
Pick and choose your battles. If you’re paying for this wedding yourself, like most couples do, allow yourself to be assertive and speak up right away for what you want. But remember, you’ll catch more flies with honey by being sweet, and not with vinegar–acting like a Bridezilla and setting everyone’s teeth on edge. Don’t assume that your wedding party girls will know what you expect from them. Be clear, but be reasonable.
Keep your perspective. If the florist can’t order enough 16-inch vases for your tables and offers you 12-inch vases instead, take a deep breath and think about it. During the reception, no one will be measuring the height of your centerpieces. They’re at your wedding to have a good time. And chances are, you won’t be thinking about how tall the centerpieces either! The same goes if the table linens don’t exactly match the bridesmaids’ dresses. That detail will likely go unnoticed, and if that matters to someone else, it’s really none of their business.
Plan ahead. Expect odd things to happen. Keep all your receipts and mark what they are for. Print out the confirmation for your block of hotel rooms for out-of-town guests, for example. People will need reminders. They’ll forget addresses to the church or ceremony site, the rehearsal dinner, you name it. Keep yourself as organized as possible.
If you don’t have a wedding planner, ask a trusted friend or family member to help you keep track of those nagging details. Such a person will help keep you on an even keel as well. Remember to listen to them. And if all else fails, loosen up! Talk to your doctor if you think you might need short-term anxiety medication to keep you calm while you plan your wedding.
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